Start inside your school
Roughly, in order, and you can stop as soon as it works:
- The nearest adult who is not the problem. A form tutor, a year head, a counsellor, a coach, a librarian. Say what happened and what you want to change. Ask them to write it down.
- The named person. Many schools have one person for safeguarding, wellbeing or discipline. Ask whether yours does and who it is by name, and ask it in an email so the answer exists on paper.
- In writing, with a date. Short email, plain facts, one ask, and a closing line asking for a reply by a named day. Keep the sent copy.
- Above them. If the answer is no, or there is no answer, ask who is above that person and what the appeal route is. Ask for the deadline for appealing, because appeals often have one.
- Outside the school building. The governing board, the school trust, the district or local education office, the inspectorate. Which of these exists depends entirely on your country, so ask the school to name the one that covers it.
- Claim
- You are entitled to be heard about decisions that affect you, and the school is where that starts.
- Instrument
- CRC, article 12(1) and 12(2); CRC General Comment 12 (2009), paragraphs 46, 47 and 113 (the committee's reading).
- Quote
- "the right to express those views freely in all matters affecting the child" (CRC, art. 12(1)). "the opportunity to be heard in any judicial and administrative proceedings" (CRC, art. 12(2)).
- What it means for you
- Chapter 4, Your voice counts, is the long version of this right; here it is only the door. Being heard is not the same as getting your way. It means your side goes on the record before a decision is made, and it applies hardest where the decision bites: the UN committee that reads the CRC says that in disciplinary matters "the right of the child to be heard has to be fully respected" (CRC General Comment 12, para 113). The same committee says schools should have someone you can take a complaint to, and that "Children should know who these persons are and how to access them" (GC 12, para 46). A route you have never been told about is not a route.
- Where it often fails
- There is no written policy, or nobody can find it. The person who decides the complaint is the person you are complaining about. You are told it will be looked into, and that is the last you hear. Nothing is written down, so a month later there is nothing to point at. And a real fear runs under all of it: that complaining makes school worse. General Comment 12 says complaints procedures have to make children confident that "using them will not expose them to risk of violence or punishment" (GC 12, para 47). That is the standard. It is not a promise that your school meets it. You know best what is safe where you are, and you do not have to weigh it alone: an adult you trust can help.
- What you can ask for
- Ask for the written complaints policy and the written discipline policy. Ask who the named person is. Ask for an answer in writing, by a date. Ask what the appeal route is and what its deadline is. Ask whether what you say stays between you and that person, and what would make them have to tell someone else, before you say it. Ask one adult you trust to come with you and take notes.